Do you want change or do you want comfort?
The whole purpose of this section is to get you to pursue the process that is embodied in the following three steps. If you are already there - and are truly ready to take on the discomfort you will encounter working through the notion that your brain, that bedrock of reality, is, in fact, lying to you - then you can skip this section. Perhaps, then, you may use these facts to proselytize to others. And believe me, that is needed. The naysayers need to be reckoned with.
The biggest sticking point on this list will likely be the evolution part. To that, I say this. I will get into the religious element shortly, but first I wish to point out the central and really, inarguable tenet that Evolution puts forth, because it's probably not what you think it is It is *not* survival of the fittest. That's probably some macho-driven, capitalism-justifying interpretation anyway. What Darwin really said is that species adapt to survive. They don't have to be the strongest or even the smartest. They just need to have enough advantage so that they can continue to live and that advantage can be almost anything.
One thing we all need to keep in mind is that Evolution, at least the physical and bioligical aspects that Darwin measured, have largely been eliminated for the human species in the modern world. Thanks to things like medicine and nepotism, those who are physically and mentally advantaged do not necessarily get ahead. In fact, it can be backwards at times in our society. Those who are most selfish - the one's who look to prove and enrich themselves and those who are dysfunctional really from an emotional standpoint - are more apt to succeed.
In a phrase, meritocracy no longer exists. In a small clan or tribe, those who did for the group were rewarded. In our modern age, those who take from the group benefit. An there's a very simple reason why this happens; numbers. In a small group, if someone is disadvantaged or even suffering, any other member can see that and emotions kick in. They work as intended. However, as soon as the group gets to be a certain size, anoynymity kicks in. And at that point, people are able to rationalize away their feelings of guilt and shame for the simple fact that "out of sight, out of mind" enables selfishness.
This all being said, I do believe people are inherently good. In fact, emotions guarantee that. We all seek to maximize pleasure and minimize pain. That includes the experince of emotions which, more or less, enable us to experience pleasure and pain based upon what is happening within someone else. They are, to a large extent, vicarious pleasure and pain. So when someone else is in pain, and it is unequivocally obvious to us, we can't do anything else other than to feel pain. And that, my friends, is a good things. It's what got our species to millions. Now, we just have to figure out how to intentionally incorporate the behavior homogenization that occurred before agriculture enabled surplus and allowed us to pursue a selfish future.
One of the fundamental problems we have in society is the lack of a basic definition as to what is acceptable behavior. To that end, we have formulated our own version as a guide. To some extent, it is the foundation of our philosophy. Accordingly, we submit to you the following tenets.
We all have a right to physical and psychological safety.
We all have a need to be happy and independent.
Abuse is when we allow our wants to usurp the rights of someone else. Abuse is never justified.
Selfishness is when we allow our wants to usurp the needs of someone else. Selfishness is never preferred.
Finally, it must be helpful to know that there are six types abuse. Three are aggressive - verbal, physical and sexual. Three are passive - emotional, mental and economic - meaning they usually involve an inaction like withholding or obstructing. Effectively, abuse is the threat to a person's physical and psychological safety.
Write a list of at least two and up to four near-term goals that you would like to facilitate with this program. They must be actionable items. In order to demonstrate progress, you must be able to measure your achievements. We may ask you to do this again. You should do it often. After all, this is the best way to make yourself accountable.