Are you willing to alter the momentum?
The good news is that every time you recall a memory, you remove it then put it back, giving you the ability to alter what is there.
86 billion synapses. That's how many connection each adult has roughly inside of their brain. And each connection holds some information, much of it reinforcing directly or indirectly other information. If that wasn't the case, we wouldn't know how to act.
For example, you come to a red traffic light and you stop. By the time you're 20 you've probably done that hundreds if not thousands of times. Now you may only remember a fraction of those incidents but, regardless, they all have the same story. The light turns green and you go. But what happens when something changes?
When I was 18 I was in the right lane of a two-lane road next to a box van. I couldn't see the traffic coming from the left. The light turned green and I started to go, but then the van stopped. So I stopped. Seconds later a car came flying across the intersection. Had I not stopped there is a good chance I would have been t-boned and, potentially, hurt badly if not killed. I can tell you that 4 decades later that memory is still vivid in my mind, so much so that I told it to all my kids when I taught them how to drive so they would also perform that sanity check. Look both ways before advancing into an intersection when they are the first car at a red light.
I tell you this story for two reasons. First of all, regardless of what you have learned in the past, some new information may come along and change that preconception. That's a really important thing to know. It's driven by the fact that you're brain remains forever plastic. That means that it can alter how it operates based upon new experiences and that is a very good thing. It is key in our ability to adapt and a great benefit we derived from our brain's evolution. The second part is more profound. It talks about the power of that new experience.
When that car flew across the intersection, I remember thinking that "wow, I may have just saved my life." For me, there was little to no chance that I would ever fail to consider that option every single time I was the first at a red light. I call that the force of the new memory over the existing memory. For my children, however, my story may not have been as impactful because it was a story, not an experience. There is a reasonable chance that they may be less vigilant than me.
The point is that no matter what thought patterns you have in your head, you can change them. However, the ability to change depends upon how many synapses are making you think the old thought. Better put, it is about how much "force" you give a new direction. Like it or not, your brain has some things wrong. The good news is that you can change. The bad news is that, unless you appreciate all the momentum going the old way and dedicate yourself to moving in a new direction, you may not make any change at all.
Anyway, that is what you are up against. Editing is possible. We will now show you how to best to that.
Talk to at least two different people each week about two different situations where you need support. Focus on keeping the conversation brief with the emphasis on how you can take constructive action to alter the momentum in your brain.