The 4Sight Model is a behavior heuristic. It gives you a tangible concept to understand how your mind works and, more importantly, help you manage your thoughts. This page gives you a brief overview of the Model.
Looking at the past
Your brain, your mind really, engages in two and only two processes during your waking hours. Most of the time is spent acquiring information, determining what is going on right now. And as it receives that input, it looks at everything that has gone on before, pulling up relevant information, comparing the new data with the existing data so to speak. In other words, you perceive the present by looking at the past. When you accurately do that you will be happy.
Planning the future
The other thing your brain does amidst all this processing, is determining what action, if any, should be taken. So, while looking at the past - including things you may have planned for this moment - you are constantly making decisions as to what to do. Much of it is rote. You don't need to spend much energy thinking about it. It's habit. But then there's the part where you are actually engaged and are trying to figure out what to do. When you accurately do this you will be independent.
In order for your consciousnss to accurately portray reality each of the two processes has two questions that must be self-sufficiently answered. Those "Four Core" Questions and their corresponding social emotions are:
For the Self-Esteem process (how you look at the past)...
Am I good? (Guilt)
Do I have value? (Shame)
For the Self-Confidence process (how you plan the future)...
Do I have discretion? (Fear)
Will I persevere? (Worry)
When we have difficulty answering any of these questions we will under or over-experience the corresponding emotion. For example, we may experience guilt when we shouldn't or not experience it when we should. Accordingly, we misinterpret what is going on and, therefore, skew reality.
All the problems we encounter and all the conflict we experience - inside us and with others - is caused by this emotional misalignment. This happens because we are not seeing things as we should. As a result, we don't say or do something we should *or* we do or say something we shouldn't. The chart below can help you determine when you or another person may be engaging in irrational thinking. It lists the markers, or behavioral traits, typically associated with misaligned emotions.
This abstract concept may be all good and well, but it is really only through watching this in action that one can understand how this can subtlety and greatly impact one's life, especially when you consider the regular engagement of destructive behavior. The video below gives you an idea as to how this happens.CORE flowchart