We can not force others to be responsible.
At best, we can respectfully tell them how we feel.

Present with Civility

We are never allowed to justify abusive behavior because we feel we were abused. We are only allowed to present our case. Even then, we must do so in a matter-of-fact manner using quantitative language. We cannot condescend, use qualitative verbiage, raise our voice, curse or dominate the conversation such that the other person does not get to reply to each and every point we make. And if they engage in the same or in any uncivil behavior, our only option is to leave their presence. We should never tolerate that which is not a consensual and respectful exchange of information. After all, conversations and interactions are a choice.