Feelings are useless unless we do something about them.
People tend to avoid alignment when it comes to taking responsibility.
They either don't take enough or they take too much.
The balance itself is, ultimately, a never ending search, so do not be dismayed.
Nonetheless, it is more the practice of seeking parity that is important versus the end result itself.
The key is that constant check in - with yourself and others - where you are constantly
confirming whether or not the Model in your head has it right.
Do not get stuck on the emotion.
Do something with it.