To start this lesson we need to make an important qualification; misleading emotions tend to be associated with feeling bad when we shouldn't. However, they should also include feeling good when we shouldn't. Meaning, if there is a problem with our behavior or with someone else, lack of sympathy or empathy can be an issue too.

Now we need to delve further into conditioning. To do that, we are going to talk about science and muscle memory. At the core of both is newton's law of inertia. Basically, it says a body in motion will tend to stay in motion unless acted upon by an equal and opposite force. The point is that, in order for behavior to change, we must introduce something to alter the habit. The second part - as with muscle memory - is that change doesn't happen right away. However, if we do it consistently, frequently and with more power so to speak, the change will happen much faster.

For example, let's say we want to stop drinking alcohol. After a hard day we get an urge to go to a bar. Now we can just decide on our own that we are not going and that's that. However, if we tell someone close to us, that has a bigger impact. Announce it to a group of people like our family or on social media, and that new ending has a much bigger memory associated with it and, therefore, more momentum to stop the old inertia, not to mention all the words of support we will get when we inform others.

The important thing to note is that reframing is at the the heart of why behavioral change is so hard. By the time we are twenty, we have potentially spent more than seven thousand days reinforcing an incorrect principle, meaning, one of the processes behind the four social emotions; valuing others, valuing ourself, making decisions and following through. We have all these memories in our head going in an undesirable direction. It will take time to reverse that momentum. Give yourself a break, but never give up. Change is possible, now that you have the knowledge and steps to take on how to do that.